On this road, three years ago today, in the dead of night a deer left the safety of the wooded shoulder and crept into the road.


It was at that moment, with Dinosaur Jr. seeping though the speakers, that my sister and the members of Electric Jellyfish (Hayden, Mike, Adam and Pat) appeared on the scene.


A startled deer and a startled wifedaughtersisterfriend. The timing was exact.


The one exception to that wholly unexceptional stretch of pavement is that it claimed the lives of my sister Bridget and her husband Hayden and left the other passengers in various states of injury and distress.


Today the road is as ordinary as can be. Thousands drive by everyday completely ignorant of what happened there.

But if you’re patient and look closely, you can see traces left behind; a dent in a guardrail, a skidmark on the road, a blemish on the center median.

Its been three years and not a day goes by that I don’t wish the timing had been different.